Be it as a trainer, entrepreneur, parent, child, spouse or friend – the best we can do is to be fully present for one other.
Open, attentive, emotionally available.
Which naturally doesn‘t work well if anxious, thinking we had to prove or defend our selves.
What relaxes me in such cases is to shift focus. From ‚how to impress‘ or ‚how to get the most‘ to ‚how to serve‘.
Or from a need to be right / give advice to a desire to understand / learn.
Often enough such shift brings instant relief.
Why, all the energy previously caught wheeling around my self and associated doubts, wants or worries suddenly gets freed up and directed to learning, serving and figuring out solutions.
Which is a deeply satisfying process.
Also, since our nervous systems interact, the ease arising with such mindset helps people in range to jointly relax, think rationally and open up.
Which in turn makes it easier for all involved to recognize restricting beliefs or patterns, come up with creative solutions and cooperate on implementing what benefits the community.
That said–an intent to serve does not mean you tolerate bullshit!