Why anxiety soars and what you can do about it
As humans we are hardwired to crave connection.
When we feel we belong, we feel secure: free from care and anxiety.
We can shake off stress, regenerate, heal, communicate, open up, trust and love.
When we can not connect, or our fellow men turn away from us our nervous system signals alarm.
We go into fight, flight or freeze mode, which restricts our ability to communicate, trust or think rationally.
Feeling disconnected and left alone, anxiety soars –
rendering us continually tensed, mistrustful, aggressive or devastated, exhausted and hopeless.
At any rate hardly able to relax, recover or really enjoy anything.
Among earlier tribes, like the Celts, exclusion from tribal rites (which consolidate connection) used to be the ultimate punishment... Now look at what we currently do to each other:
We increasingly sort ourselves into factions. Flocking together with people whose views happen to fall in nicely with our current ideology. Unfriending / dehumanizing / excluding whoever holds a differing view.
Filtering this way, we lose our tolerance, civility and connection.
Why, these arbitrarily choosen factions do not offer genuine belonging.
It‘s not belonging if you band together against something
It‘s not belonging if its centered on insulting or dehumanizing others
It‘s not belonging -and our nervous systems will not be soothed- until we physically meet and support each other
Considering this, what do you think is won if you insult and turn your back on a fellow?
Or might we all profit more if we stood civil, in touch and focused on values we have in common or want to have more of – also with fellows who eat / pray / vote or train differently?
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